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Ok thanks everybody for all the advice. I/we are taking it the same way as all of you have said and I just wanted to be sure that we were not be clouded by the freindship thing. They are really great people and we like them alot. I spoke with her today voiced my concerns that I don't want her to feel pressure to do anything that she does not want to do. She said that she is fine with everything with soft swap and that her problem is really with intercourse and that she would like to go back to soft swap and may at some point be ok with full but she could not say for sure it she would or when that would be. She also said that they understand if we need to start looking for another couple that will give us what we want.
I told her that we are fine with soft swap as we can have lots of fun with that too and that we will take it slow and go at her pace and just hope that at some point she will be ok with full but if not then we understand. I also told her that the ball is in their court we want to get together again and play and get this one out of our minds as soon as possible but that is up to them and her as to when that will happen. Yes the husband is all about it and to be honest I would not have a problem with the three of us playing but that is not going to happen as I don't think she would allow it and we would not want to be a part of anybody cheating on anybody. Thanks again