[SouthBond]

I suppose if you ran the bars all your life and slept with everything in town, swinging would come very easy. But many married couples have never done anything close to swapping partners. They have gotten an education, secured good careers, had a family, been part of the community, maybe even gone to church, just like all the good people do. But back there in their mind is the thought of having sex with someone else. Maybe it's born in us, maybe watching XXX movies that gives us the idea, or maybe we are just bored with the same old sex. Then when you find out that your spouse is thinking about the same thing, you begin moving towards swinging and start asking questions. If you could just find a robo couple that you could bring into the bedroom and play with, it would be great. But you need a real live couple. But you are afraid. What about diseases, what if someone finds out, what if you find yourself in a room with a serial killer. So you try to ease into the fantasy with the idea of just ultra soft swing, maybe softswing, maybe just watch and be watched, maybe same room. Maybe, maybe, maybe, and if, if, if. So you go to the Swinger's Board which is the best place to go for information about swinging. But you find hard core swingers and you really don't want to hop in bed with someone that has laid half the people in your part of the state. You are actually much better than them, a higher standard, you want to have a high standard sex. So you get on Swing Lifestyle and say that you are looking for a fun couple, college degree, don't smoke, social drink, no STDs, no illegal habits, friends first, maybe soft sex. Very Tame. Then you don't get any replies or worse yet the moderator sends you an email saying you probably should just go to the church social club. Worse yet, someone from your town calls up and figures out that it is you posting on Swing Lifestyle and tells you that everyone at the Rotary Club thought that it was really interesting. You think, what and the hell are we doing. But you are still horny and still thinking about swinging. So you continue your mission. So what should you do? Evaluate if you want to have more fun than you have ever had in your life or forget the whole idea and just live out your life in total boredom. My wife and I decided what we wanted and recruited. We first would talk to couples and feel out their sex level with jokes or comments. If this led to sharing XXX movies, we figured that we had them. All the couples that we have ever played with was preceded by visits to each other homes and sharing sexual comments, jokes, movies, and suggestions. Somewhere in the process, the talk would turn to actually doing things that the other person had fantasized about. Sometimes it took a few dates but it all concluded with full swap. There are thousands of people looking for sexual fun. You just have to work, in a smart way, to find people that you like and can trust.