[ShellyM]

I'm sorry about this....it happens way too often. What I have been told is this. When you are interested in a woman or man, and they say they swing "but my husband is cool with it" ask for the phone number so you can call and speak with the husband in person. Do not email or IM him or her, tell the person you will not meet until you have actually spoken to their spouse. If they say "okay, heres his number, and his name is Bob" you know they are probably on the up and up.......if they get all nervous and say oh he is out of town, etc. you get your things and RUN away.