[ShellyM]

Both myself and a lot of others can relate to this, trust me. Well, for one thing I'm glad you are being patient with her. The truth is, you never know how you are REALLY going to feel about something until you really see it. See, she has a fantasy. Yes, it annoys the shit out of me when people are one way on IM, and then you are with them in person and they are like a different individual. But once she got in the kitchen she realized the stove was just too hot. Sure, she should have said I'm sorry, this isn't working. But like me, she decided to just go with the flow and try to fake it. Okay, doesn't work well. I can't tell you what you should do. I'm glad they are your friends, they sound like great people. Hey, and if you met great friends than you won in the end anyways. Don't take is personally, she is having conflicting feelings with herself regarding this issue. You may need to sit down with her though and ask her once and for all what she wants to do. And look for couples who are comfortable with full swap. Like me, you live and learn. Chalk it up to learning experience, and move forward. Now you know what questions to ask couples from jump.
Best of luck to you!