 Re: Body Image Issues
Body image isn't only a problem for plus-size women. I've always had a problem liking my body - even though I get a lot of compliments. Swinging has always given me more confidence in my body. I've never thought of not swinging because of my body image hang-up, but before we had experiences I always wondered if my body would be compared to others. I've found that personality is far more important than looks. It's what is on the inside that counts.
I do think you need your husband to know how you feel, however. When you say you are worried he may 'groan louder' and it would upset you - you really need to deal with that before it becomes a problem in your marriage.
You have to realize that 'she' will be NEW to him. He may be far more excited than 'normal' because of THAT - not because of her body! But if you are measuring things by his groans or his enthusiam, it may be a problem for both of you!
TALK about it. I also know what you mean by not sharing your body image thoughts with your partner - lack of confidence is not a turn on. But you really NEED to discuss this. Does he read this board? Maybe it's time he does.
Good luck - let us all know how it goes.
Sarah
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