The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Body Image Issues - worried about being naked in front of other women

crazycatz · 10-29-2006, 07:57 AM

Hi,

I'm new to posting on the boards but have been reading them for quite some time. I have a question but I don't know if I've posted it in the right place.

My partner and I are just starting out in the lifestyle. He has a small bit of experience before we met and we had an MMF together and LOVED it.

We both would like to try and MFF (I want to explore my bi side and a huge fantasy for him is having a threesome with me and another woman). I'm feeling really insecure about this however.

I am a size 20 and have always struggled with body image issues...there are days when I really hate my body and some days that I accept it and think my face and personality compensates for it.

I have very few if any issues when it comes to being naked with men...I know that a lot of men are attracted to me and I generally feel positive and have no inhibitions when it comes to that and I guess that's why the MMF was so fantastic.

However, I'm really nervous about an MFF -- for two reasons. 1) Women seem to be much more put off by a plus size women than men are. I am worried that I would feel really self-conscious being naked and intimate with a woman who is smaller than me and/or has a great body. 2) I worry about whether or not I will be jealous about seeing my partner being turned on by a woman that clearly has a better body than me. I'm afraid I will internalise that if he seems to make a louder moan than he does with me or get off on it more. I know that's probably irrational--I mean the hornieness of a threeway or group situation is what would be the big turn on and not necessarily the hot bodied girl...but this nonetheless, doesn't take away the fear.

I haven't talked about this with my partner because I actually hide my body image issues from him. There is nothing more unattractive than someone who lacks confidence.

Now I do fantasise about a threesome and him having sexing with the woman in the threesome but I don't know how I would feel in reality.

Any thoughts???
thank for reading.

10-29-2006, 07:57 AM	#1 (permalink)
crazycatz Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 136 Location: ireland Status: Bi female	Body Image Issues - worried about being naked in front of other women Hi, I'm new to posting on the boards but have been reading them for quite some time. I have a question but I don't know if I've posted it in the right place. My partner and I are just starting out in the lifestyle. He has a small bit of experience before we met and we had an MMF together and LOVED it. We both would like to try and MFF (I want to explore my bi side and a huge fantasy for him is having a threesome with me and another woman). I'm feeling really insecure about this however. I am a size 20 and have always struggled with body image issues...there are days when I really hate my body and some days that I accept it and think my face and personality compensates for it. I have very few if any issues when it comes to being naked with men...I know that a lot of men are attracted to me and I generally feel positive and have no inhibitions when it comes to that and I guess that's why the MMF was so fantastic. However, I'm really nervous about an MFF -- for two reasons. 1) Women seem to be much more put off by a plus size women than men are. I am worried that I would feel really self-conscious being naked and intimate with a woman who is smaller than me and/or has a great body. 2) I worry about whether or not I will be jealous about seeing my partner being turned on by a woman that clearly has a better body than me. I'm afraid I will internalise that if he seems to make a louder moan than he does with me or get off on it more. I know that's probably irrational--I mean the hornieness of a threeway or group situation is what would be the big turn on and not necessarily the hot bodied girl...but this nonetheless, doesn't take away the fear. I haven't talked about this with my partner because I actually hide my body image issues from him. There is nothing more unattractive than someone who lacks confidence. Now I do fantasise about a threesome and him having sexing with the woman in the threesome but I don't know how I would feel in reality. Any thoughts??? thank for reading.