Steve,
It sounds like you and your wife have really good communication. It also sounds like (and I could be totally off base here) that you're so amped up to full swap because you're so hot for this other woman that you're pushing. Like I said, maybe I'm completely wrong.
Also this worries me because it sounds a little like you're suggesting that she owes you...
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Originally Posted by Darkblue now i have always looked after my wife and put her before myself!!this is the first person who is interested in me the others just wanted her and i was sat on the sidelines,i have never had the chance to play as such,she has and she enjoyed it!! |
I can certainly understand how hard it is to really want to be with this other woman with whom you have the strong chemistry. But even though your wife (maybe sort of) has said you could go ahead, she has told you that she's not OK with it, at least not presently. If I were you, honestly, I would back off the idea for now. Let it rest for a while and focus on the two of you and your relationship (like you sound like you have been) and like Sarah and Shelly said, keep talking. My guess is that if she were ever to consider bending the rules or extending the boundries, it'd be when she's feeling really secure and loved and supported.
Pressure to do things you're not comfortable with is one of the least sexy things in the world.
Best to you both!