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clutch · 10-21-2006, 03:09 AM

My wife and I only swing together; but we both flirt like crazy...often in physical ways...usually when were around each other, but it's okay if we flirt when separated. However, we know swinging couples that flirting is strictly taboo.

We don't regard ourselves as right and anyone else wrong. It's just our deep, foundational agreements established understandings. If one of us were to change our mind (as sometimes might happen, given a certain situation), we talk it through and if we need to change our minds, attitudes, behavior, etc., we do.

We know several couples that date other people separately--more of the open marriage thing versus swinging. We would not dream of doing this. And yet, it works very well for them.

We don't like anal, but oral is great--our swing partners are just the opposite. Slightly off topic, but it illustrates the point. Couples, as a couple, are the legislative, executive, and judicial to governing their marriage and what works for them.

I would say, dishonesty and/or withholding would be a core issue--not only in relationships and/or swinging, but in any area of a marriage.

10-21-2006, 03:09 AM	#65 (permalink)
clutch Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2004 Posts: 140 Location: tennessee	Re: What Defines Cheating? My wife and I only swing together; but we both flirt like crazy...often in physical ways...usually when were around each other, but it's okay if we flirt when separated. However, we know swinging couples that flirting is strictly taboo. We don't regard ourselves as right and anyone else wrong. It's just our deep, foundational agreements established understandings. If one of us were to change our mind (as sometimes might happen, given a certain situation), we talk it through and if we need to change our minds, attitudes, behavior, etc., we do. We know several couples that date other people separately--more of the open marriage thing versus swinging. We would not dream of doing this. And yet, it works very well for them. We don't like anal, but oral is great--our swing partners are just the opposite. Slightly off topic, but it illustrates the point. Couples, as a couple, are the legislative, executive, and judicial to governing their marriage and what works for them. I would say, dishonesty and/or withholding would be a core issue--not only in relationships and/or swinging, but in any area of a marriage.