 Re: Confused.
With all due respect to the folks who have posted before, IMO you need to determine whether you want to maintain a double standard relationship with a "girlfriend". Everything else will fall into place.
For starters, alcohol breaks down inhibitions, but doesn't make people do what they really don't want to do (unless they are unconscious. Then it's "rape".) She wanted to have sex with that other man. And by saying that she can continue to do so, she has established what she wants to do in the future (have sex with other men). Since she has determined that she doesn't want YOU to have the same freedom, you have to make the big decision on whether you want to have a future devoted to having sex with only this one woman (or maybe not even that if she decides one day that you will be relegated to just hearing about her other exploits and become cuckold). I'll make a leap here that your initial presentation of the idea of entering the lifestyle didn't have that in mind.
From what you have written, my take is that this relationship is drawing to a close and you should look elsewhere for what you really want in Life. (It's too short.) With that said, I am open to the aspect that people do change (like her not wanting to have sex with other men and deciding after eating the forbidden fruit that she does). So she might swing back to where you want to be. If she is "young" (like in the twenties), then she very well might be going through a "phase" of new found freedom and might make a swing back, but you never know.
If it was me, I'd see the writing on the wall and plan an exit strategy from the relationship AND definitely refrain from further sex with her. With her stated interest in having sex with other men, she very well might "cheat" on you and you wouldn't know it. You may no longer have control of how she does or doesn't apply protection and therefore no control over what she might contract.
Absolutely get that STD screening. NOW!
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