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Flori_DAMAN · 02-08-2003, 04:55 PM

I have been subjected to rejection for a variety of reasons.

Sometimes it is actually my personality. In crowds I really have to work hard to be myseslf. Someone else mentioned that they appear arrogant in crowds, and I guess I do also. It is because although I want to maintain a self-confident appearance deep down I am not good at starting up conversations.

I found that exposure over a longer term is the answer to my personality flaws. Deep down I am not arrogant and actually a bit insecure if anything and once someone gets to know me they discover that.

One thing I have noticed at clubs is the average weight is definately above average. But I notice that at the mall also. So maybe the average weight in this country is higher than the TV shows would make one think.

Anyhow, looks, size, age, and other physicl attributes including breast or penis size are factors for many people including myself. This is referring to possible sexual relations, not friendship or emloyment issues. In the latter none of the above matter.

Perhaps the term prejudiced is accurate but that doesn't make it wrong. Lots of people lump the word prejudiced with terms like racist or hatred. There is a huge difference.

I personally would not want to be with a very heavy person, but lots of people wouldn't give me a second thought for a number of reasons. A twenty year old model type usually doesn't even notice me (cept on rare occasions here n there), and although she may be prejudiced against older balding guys, for sex playmates, thats OK, and it is her right.

I can still indulge in a little flirting and do so every chance I get lol.

John.

02-08-2003, 04:55 PM	#9 (permalink)
Flori_DAMAN Previously of MichiganCouple Join Date: Apr 2001 Posts: 2,100 Location: Vero Beach Florida Status: Single Male	I have been subjected to rejection for a variety of reasons. Sometimes it is actually my personality. In crowds I really have to work hard to be myseslf. Someone else mentioned that they appear arrogant in crowds, and I guess I do also. It is because although I want to maintain a self-confident appearance deep down I am not good at starting up conversations. I found that exposure over a longer term is the answer to my personality flaws. Deep down I am not arrogant and actually a bit insecure if anything and once someone gets to know me they discover that. One thing I have noticed at clubs is the average weight is definately above average. But I notice that at the mall also. So maybe the average weight in this country is higher than the TV shows would make one think. Anyhow, looks, size, age, and other physicl attributes including breast or penis size are factors for many people including myself. This is referring to possible sexual relations, not friendship or emloyment issues. In the latter none of the above matter. Perhaps the term prejudiced is accurate but that doesn't make it wrong. Lots of people lump the word prejudiced with terms like racist or hatred. There is a huge difference. I personally would not want to be with a very heavy person, but lots of people wouldn't give me a second thought for a number of reasons. A twenty year old model type usually doesn't even notice me (cept on rare occasions here n there), and although she may be prejudiced against older balding guys, for sex playmates, thats OK, and it is her right. I can still indulge in a little flirting and do so every chance I get lol. John.