Shit HELL NO!!!
This is the type of thing that give the good single guys a bad rap. Hell, I wouldn't tolerate this type of behavior from anyone, single or couple, in our out of the lifestyle. This is just a lack of class and I would have done the same exact thing.
What the hell is that supposed to mean..."Just like a woman..." give me a break. He cancelled the plans on you, last minute no less, and then blames you for tell him that you don't think you are compatible.
I guess to me I would leave it at that and say good ridance. No point in wasting anymore of you time on a jerk like this.
Just my opinion of course.
-Van