 Re: Confused.
You can look at this as cheating and no one would blame you for that. However, getting worked up and angry is not going to help you resolve your problems with your girlfriend. She may deserve to be treated badly and receive a bunch of anger feelings but in the end, life isn't fair and it's not your job to dole out the fairness anyway.
At this point you have to decide if you can forgive this unfairness or not. Do you want to save your relationship or not? If you do then it's all about communication. You need to find out why this happened. Are you ready for swinging? Of course no. You must already know that. It's not entirely a lost cause. A lot of people stumble into this lifestyle though less than optimal means but you've got your relationship to deal with first.
Why does she need to be drunk to feel like she can be with someone else?
Why does she think it's okay for her but not okay for you?
Again, you need to talk about why this happened, where you both are, and why either of you might even want a part of this lifestyle. Understanding these things might bring you closer to being reaty.
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