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funNCcpl · 02-08-2003, 09:00 AM

My wife and I have been swinging for a little over a year now; she is a beautiful blonde BBW, 49 years old, and I am 45 years old, 6'1", 190#, average build.

While we all wish Harold and his wife the best, let's step into the "real world" for a minute and be honest. We have found quite a bit of predjudice by other couples who are so shallow and vain that they see only the "outer" image of a person. Just read many of the personal ads: "no fatties, no one over XXX pounds, must be in shape, must be height and weight proportionate, etc.".

Sure, the initial response would be, well you don't want to be friends and play with those people then anyway. But, we have found that this prevalent attitude really begins to play on your ego, and it actually decreases the number of available folks out there that you might seek out to swing with.

Not only has my wife being a BBW caused us many a rejection, but our ages play into this equation also. You are then forced to "go searching" for "specialized" groups that are seeking larger people to swing with or those groups formed for the "older" crowd.

Predjudice is alive and well in this world of swinging, just as it is in every other aspect of our daily lives. The trick is to not get so fed up with it that you quit seeking what you ultimately desire.

02-08-2003, 09:00 AM	#7 (permalink)
funNCcpl Registered User Join Date: Aug 2002 Posts: 2 Location: Graham, NC	RE: Swinging and Large People My wife and I have been swinging for a little over a year now; she is a beautiful blonde BBW, 49 years old, and I am 45 years old, 6'1", 190#, average build. While we all wish Harold and his wife the best, let's step into the "real world" for a minute and be honest. We have found quite a bit of predjudice by other couples who are so shallow and vain that they see only the "outer" image of a person. Just read many of the personal ads: "no fatties, no one over XXX pounds, must be in shape, must be height and weight proportionate, etc.". Sure, the initial response would be, well you don't want to be friends and play with those people then anyway. But, we have found that this prevalent attitude really begins to play on your ego, and it actually decreases the number of available folks out there that you might seek out to swing with. Not only has my wife being a BBW caused us many a rejection, but our ages play into this equation also. You are then forced to "go searching" for "specialized" groups that are seeking larger people to swing with or those groups formed for the "older" crowd. Predjudice is alive and well in this world of swinging, just as it is in every other aspect of our daily lives. The trick is to not get so fed up with it that you quit seeking what you ultimately desire.