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havefuninsun · 10-15-2006, 11:33 AM

No one wants to feel left out. It's a terrible feeling.

I think a lot has to do with how hard it is to find another couple. Talk about number of relationships to manage! Just managing your relationship with your wife is enough; then add another woman, another man, how the other woman relates with you, relates with your wife; the other man relating to you, your wife ... lawd have mercy! It's a wonder any of us ever find playmates!

If I were in her situation and Mr. Fun said "I'm not comfortable," I'd cut it off. No questions (well, maybe one or two -- but you know what I mean). So, in a LOVING way, say "babe -- this is making me feel bad, not good. The point of swinging is FUN for all. Let's keep talking to other couples and see if we can find one who better fits both of our desires."

Keep talking and good luck!

10-15-2006, 11:33 AM	#12 (permalink)
havefuninsun insert witty banter here Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 1,190 Location: Virginia Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:havefuninsun	Re: newbie did I over react or thin skin No one wants to feel left out. It's a terrible feeling. I think a lot has to do with how hard it is to find another couple. Talk about number of relationships to manage! Just managing your relationship with your wife is enough; then add another woman, another man, how the other woman relates with you, relates with your wife; the other man relating to you, your wife ... lawd have mercy! It's a wonder any of us ever find playmates! If I were in her situation and Mr. Fun said "I'm not comfortable," I'd cut it off. No questions (well, maybe one or two -- but you know what I mean). So, in a LOVING way, say "babe -- this is making me feel bad, not good. The point of swinging is FUN for all. Let's keep talking to other couples and see if we can find one who better fits both of our desires." Keep talking and good luck!