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ohash01 · 10-15-2006, 10:44 AM

Like Shelly, and like you, we have had this problem as well. J. has NOO issues with me meeting with a female alone. One girl. That's it. Her hubby/boyfriend doesn't tag along or show up randomly. If there is another M involved, J. WILL be there and he WILL have a say. We've also had the problem of "I just don't like this guy...I think he just wants to get into your pants." And I just replied "Sweetie...that's the POINT of swinging...but if he really bothers you, I have no choice but to cross the couple "off our list" cause they don't play alone" I digress...

Sit down and talk to your wife about how you're feeling. If she's reasonable about it, I think you both can come to the conclusion that swinging is possible - just not with this particular couple. If your communication issues are handled and your both comfortable after that, keep looking. It's hard to date one person...trying to having 4 people involved and someone doesn't like something one other person did and it gets complicated. I agree with Shelly though - don't dictate. I, also get a WHOLE lot bitchy when I get told "no you absolutely may NOT" without getting a reason. I'm sure your wife wants to hear about your feelings and about why you feel how you do. Women are emotional creatures...more so than men...so tell her your emotions...dont' just tell her no. She'll relate.

10-15-2006, 10:44 AM	#11 (permalink)
ohash01 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 535 Location: Ohio Status: Single Female	Re: newbie did I over react or thin skin Like Shelly, and like you, we have had this problem as well. J. has NOO issues with me meeting with a female alone. One girl. That's it. Her hubby/boyfriend doesn't tag along or show up randomly. If there is another M involved, J. WILL be there and he WILL have a say. We've also had the problem of "I just don't like this guy...I think he just wants to get into your pants." And I just replied "Sweetie...that's the POINT of swinging...but if he really bothers you, I have no choice but to cross the couple "off our list" cause they don't play alone" I digress... Sit down and talk to your wife about how you're feeling. If she's reasonable about it, I think you both can come to the conclusion that swinging is possible - just not with this particular couple. If your communication issues are handled and your both comfortable after that, keep looking. It's hard to date one person...trying to having 4 people involved and someone doesn't like something one other person did and it gets complicated. I agree with Shelly though - don't dictate. I, also get a WHOLE lot bitchy when I get told "no you absolutely may NOT" without getting a reason. I'm sure your wife wants to hear about your feelings and about why you feel how you do. Women are emotional creatures...more so than men...so tell her your emotions...dont' just tell her no. She'll relate.