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Additude · 10-15-2006, 08:57 AM

Your not over reacting.

Your wife blew up as a measure to put you on the defensive and make you feel guilty that the problem lies with you.

If you feel guilty you are more likely to do what she wants.

It's a classic and common game. Guilt is a very powerful tool.

If your wife doesn't want to recognize the situation, acknowledge your concerns and on top of that she play's the guilt trip on you, then I suggest you focus your concerns on her intentions.

She is being very selfish and has complete disregard for you. She can't be wanting to play as a "couple" even if your not there.

10-15-2006, 08:57 AM	#7 (permalink)
Additude Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2002 Posts: 623 Location: OBX-NC	Re: newbie did I over react or thin skin Your not over reacting. Your wife blew up as a measure to put you on the defensive and make you feel guilty that the problem lies with you. If you feel guilty you are more likely to do what she wants. It's a classic and common game. Guilt is a very powerful tool. If your wife doesn't want to recognize the situation, acknowledge your concerns and on top of that she play's the guilt trip on you, then I suggest you focus your concerns on her intentions. She is being very selfish and has complete disregard for you. She can't be wanting to play as a "couple" even if your not there.
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