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Old 10-13-2006, 01:21 PM   #12 (permalink)
NandTfromCA
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Originally Posted by InNY
Then other times I think maybe my wife and I have developed different views on life and we both might be better compatable with someone else. I'm wondering if anyone else has run into this situation and what were some of the outcomes. Any insight or opinions would be appreciated.
Before you start thinking too much of leaving your wife for swinging, talk to some single guys who are in the swinging scene. Find out how difficult it is for a strapping, professional, 25 year old male to find people to play with. Also, find out how difficult it is to find single women who are swingers. It may make you rethink the value of your relationship.

Here’s the situation you are in:

1. You can leave your wife, and call yourself a swinger…only to find that you are getting laid much less than you did while you were married...and that you miss this person you invitested so much of your life with.

2. You can push your wife into doing something she isn’t comfortable with and fulfill the self-fulfilling prophecy of “maybe we have grown apart”. In which case, go to option 1.

3. You can accept her for who she is. Accentuate her positive rather than dwelling on the fact that she isn’t as slutty as you want her to be. Once you accept that swinging is not an option, you will be a much happier person.

Spoo said it best…
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Originally Posted by Spoomonkey
Quit obsessing over this one path and start exploring others - together.
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