 Re: Where did we go wrong?
In my humble opinion, I just always compare the Lifestyle to regular dating.
There is no right. There is no wrong.
If I dated a woman who only wanted to go to second base, and I found that frustrating and confining, well, I'd just move on. Of course, rules do get bent A LOT in dating AND in the lifestyle, too.
Personally, we don't play with people with those kinds of rules.
We are all about the whole libertine... free... if it feels good, do it.... push envelopes... type of encounter.
If we meet a couple and for them it's about F-F play only... like, "My wife won't touch your husband because we have rules"... well... we'd just move on.
Everyday rules change.
I don't think it's fair to label yourselves as a 'bad' swingers. No way.
Just find people who think more along your lines, and you should be okay.
(As an aside, one thing we don't EVER do is tit-for-tat type of activities. If someone's wife is dying to give me a blowjob and does so... then great for her! It does NOT mean my wife has to give him a blowjob. One time a guy was totally enjoying licking my wife's ass. I didn't feel compelled to reciprocate on her ass! That's cool. But the whole rule thing is something we don't get, and we choose to play with people without rules whenever possible.)
But don't judge yourselves harshly!
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