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Originally Posted by azcpl01 I say "too bad for you" and let's find another couple that understands what it is we are looking for. Is this too confining? Are we not "good swingers" because we won't bend our boundaries (at least not yet)? Is there such a thing as "taking too long?" |
In reading your story I would have to say that you both have done nothing wrong. As we all have stated before " go at the slowest person's pace". It seems that the couple thought maybe that starting out slow with the both of you would lead to more later, and because it was not going as fast as they wanted to, they decided it was not worth the wait for them. And your comment of "too bad for you" is exactly the way I would have handled it.. Move on, there will be more couples out there that would be willing to go at that pace.
We have met couples who are not ready for full swap in which that is what MrVan and I are comfortable with, but we also know that everyone has to go at their own pace and we have to make sure that everyone involved is comfortable before we move forward. MrVan and I will do what it takes to be patient and make sure that the other couples are comfortable if they start out with soft swap and maybe work their way up to full swap. You cannot rush everyone to do things that you are ready for because depending on how long they have been in the lifestyle will depend on what the other couple is ready for.
They I am sure will be missing out on alot and all you can do is move forward and find new couples.
It is their loss and someone else's gain facelick
MrsVan