[riswingcpl]

Your feelings don't make you "bad swingers", but there seems to have been mixed messages flying around, and that's never good. If you were clear with them that you'd never be into full swap, only looking for FF action, but the other couple expected you to eventually work towards full swap, then they made the mistake. If you led them to believe that your comfort level would grow as the friendship matured, then I think they probably waited as long as they could for that maturation and when the situation didn't change, they hit the eject button. If they waited a year, frankly they gave you much longer than G and I would have.

The one-way BJ strikes me as wrong. You should have said no to that, rather than "cashing in" while the other guy was left wanting. Fair is fair.

That said, Spoo is right in saying that you'll probably have a hard time finding a soft-swap only couple. I know that G and I wouldn't meet you if you had no intention of moving further than that. We'd meet newbies who wanted to stick their toes in the water BEFORE jumping in, but if they have no intention of jumping, they're not for us.

M