[ShellyM]

I agree with all said. I say it like this. I work at an office where we are the administrative side....no doctors on site (thank God!). So, we have an extremely laid back dress code. You can pretty much wear whatever you want other than really hoochie. I do wear business clothes. Not suits, mind you. But I wear make up every day, I do my hair up, I wear nice clothes and jewelry. My buddy next to me is in a serious rut. She wears old clothes, doesnt do make up, nothing. Not that there is anything wrong at all with this, but she has told me that she is in a serious rut, and that she has no one to dress up for......we were talking about a Victoria's Secret pantie sale lol, and I told her that we needed to go get her some stuff. She said "why, no one is going to see it so why am I going to spend money on it?"

Okay. I enjoy knowing that Jay sees me in my frillies and such. But for me, dressing sexy (even if its a nice pair of panties under my slacks) makes ME feel good. It makes me feel sexy and beautiful, and this then emanates outward. Its not about how you look necessarily. Its how looking good makes you feel. I remember when I had just given birth to our youngest son, and I was pretty much looking like a mother whos whole life centered around the baby and my boobs lol. I looked in the mirror and frightened myself. I then showered and put make up on, even though it was just Adam and I there in the house at the time. Its how you feel, not necessarily how you look.
Thats just my .02