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rpu3 · 10-07-2006, 11:26 AM

Thought provoking thread...

In our circumstance, we did fall into the rut as to not looking our best for each others, etc., complete with a significant weight gain for both of us. I'd definitely say that was the "we like each other for what we are" school of thought.

At some point, we both got tired of looking like crap (and we did look pretty bad), and wanted better for each other. We dropped the weight, I started to dress better and differently (colors/not baggy) and wear makeup and accessories as I see fit, etc. We started this, however, before we looked into swinging. It may have very well been a trigger to consider swinging. We looked better, carried ourselves differently, and people paid attention to us differently, and that may have given us the confidence to consider swinging.

I'd say that 90% of the time, how we typically dress/look for each other is how we dress when going out in public. The other 10% is a split between dressing up for the club (which you really can't do in real life, except in the bedroom) or that 2 or 3 hours on a weekend morning that I'm not going to get out of my sweats and ponytail until I'm good and ready, thankyouverymuch.

In any case, I've come to the conclusion that if my spouse likes my "normal" look, perhaps others will too, so I don't "change" it up, except for perhaps going to the club. But it took a transformation of sorts to get there, and the transformation began as something for the two of us, and now that's displayed/shared with others, not vice versa.

R.

10-07-2006, 11:26 AM	#13 (permalink)
rpu3 Doing it our way... Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 3,273 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female Swing Lifestyle Name:rpu3	Re: Swinging & Hygiene/Presentation Thought provoking thread... In our circumstance, we did fall into the rut as to not looking our best for each others, etc., complete with a significant weight gain for both of us. I'd definitely say that was the "we like each other for what we are" school of thought. At some point, we both got tired of looking like crap (and we did look pretty bad), and wanted better for each other. We dropped the weight, I started to dress better and differently (colors/not baggy) and wear makeup and accessories as I see fit, etc. We started this, however, before we looked into swinging. It may have very well been a trigger to consider swinging. We looked better, carried ourselves differently, and people paid attention to us differently, and that may have given us the confidence to consider swinging. I'd say that 90% of the time, how we typically dress/look for each other is how we dress when going out in public. The other 10% is a split between dressing up for the club (which you really can't do in real life, except in the bedroom) or that 2 or 3 hours on a weekend morning that I'm not going to get out of my sweats and ponytail until I'm good and ready, thankyouverymuch. In any case, I've come to the conclusion that if my spouse likes my "normal" look, perhaps others will too, so I don't "change" it up, except for perhaps going to the club. But it took a transformation of sorts to get there, and the transformation began as something for the two of us, and now that's displayed/shared with others, not vice versa. R.
	__________________ I'll give up my bad habits as soon as equally satisfying good habits become available. A. Brilliant Last edited by rpu3; 10-07-2006 at 01:34 PM. Reason: Because I don't edit well without coffee.