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laptop_c · 10-04-2006, 01:15 AM

Thanks to one and all for your advise and inputs! There clearly is some thinking and talking wife and I need to do before we decide to plunge or not plunge into this.

I definitely understand the disadvantages of swinging with close friends. For us the fact that they are our friends gives rise to a dicothomy of sorts meaning on one hand we are afraid to swing because they are close friends and we may be risking the friendship on the other the intimacy and the comfort of being with someone close and familiar (and so sexy) makes us feel safer and more interested!

But no matter how i look at it, the fact that our friends are going to move overseas in the near future, somehow pushes me to think that the taking that risk might just be worth it. Funny that wife and I were talking about how we lost contact with so many of our friends once they moved out of the area and yes there was no swinging involved there but we still lost touch as all of use moved on in different directions!

Having said that we do have some work ahead of us. Luckily my wife and I are on the exact same page, which i think is the greatest part of all this!! At this point in time, we are in our wait and see mode and take things as they come.

Anyways, coming back to the present, while the four of us have never talked to each other at the same time (besides the flirting and joking) about this, the girls have done quite a bit of talking although without too much specificity. This coming weekend the girls are treating us guys to party at the local strip club.... the last time we all went there we had a blast!

I am looking forward to this weekend. As I was telling my wife the other day, that regardless of wheather we end up sleeping with our friends, our friendship with them given has already become one that will linger in our memories for a lifetime.

10-04-2006, 01:15 AM	#10 (permalink)
laptop_c Registered Join Date: Apr 2005 Posts: 4 Location: California	Re: Swinging with Friends Thanks to one and all for your advise and inputs! There clearly is some thinking and talking wife and I need to do before we decide to plunge or not plunge into this. I definitely understand the disadvantages of swinging with close friends. For us the fact that they are our friends gives rise to a dicothomy of sorts meaning on one hand we are afraid to swing because they are close friends and we may be risking the friendship on the other the intimacy and the comfort of being with someone close and familiar (and so sexy) makes us feel safer and more interested! But no matter how i look at it, the fact that our friends are going to move overseas in the near future, somehow pushes me to think that the taking that risk might just be worth it. Funny that wife and I were talking about how we lost contact with so many of our friends once they moved out of the area and yes there was no swinging involved there but we still lost touch as all of use moved on in different directions! Having said that we do have some work ahead of us. Luckily my wife and I are on the exact same page, which i think is the greatest part of all this!! At this point in time, we are in our wait and see mode and take things as they come. Anyways, coming back to the present, while the four of us have never talked to each other at the same time (besides the flirting and joking) about this, the girls have done quite a bit of talking although without too much specificity. This coming weekend the girls are treating us guys to party at the local strip club.... the last time we all went there we had a blast! I am looking forward to this weekend. As I was telling my wife the other day, that regardless of wheather we end up sleeping with our friends, our friendship with them given has already become one that will linger in our memories for a lifetime.