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ibn battuta · 10-02-2006, 05:26 PM

The wife and I've had one great swing experience with a friend, and very recently lost a couple we were friends with because we misread the cues they were sending us about their sexuality. My positive friend experience was with a single man that I had known since 2nd grade, lived next to growing up, stayed close to in college (at least closer then any of my other friends from back home), and still maintain a good relationship with today. We weren't awkward with each other about sex before hand, he knew everything about me (including being my only vanilla friend that knew I swung) and was perfectly willing to help my wife and I out with a MFM. I think if we had not been so close it wouldn't have worked.
In contrast, at the beginning of this summer my wife and I brought the subject of a swing up to a couple that we felt had been sending us very obvious signals (the husband offered me his wife for the night in a bet about what type of car James Bond drove, the wife flashed me, the husband told me the Mrs. was hot, a game of strip poker was initiated by them, there was a ceaseless drone from their side about their sexual exploits, etc...) and while I will spare y'all the details, it was probably the most awkward night of my life and they no longer seem to want to have anything to do with us. Evidently, the hyper-sexual nature of their discourse with us was due not towards any desire to be with us, but rather a downward spiral between the two of them in which they are constantly trying to make the other jealous... good times and great oldies...
In summation, I would tend to agree with the other posters: swinging with your friends can work, but I think those incidents are in the minority. In general you will probably lose more friends that way then its worth.

10-02-2006, 05:26 PM	#8 (permalink)
ibn battuta Here to Stay Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 39 Location: Texas Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:TheWinklebottoms	Re: Swinging with Friends The wife and I've had one great swing experience with a friend, and very recently lost a couple we were friends with because we misread the cues they were sending us about their sexuality. My positive friend experience was with a single man that I had known since 2nd grade, lived next to growing up, stayed close to in college (at least closer then any of my other friends from back home), and still maintain a good relationship with today. We weren't awkward with each other about sex before hand, he knew everything about me (including being my only vanilla friend that knew I swung) and was perfectly willing to help my wife and I out with a MFM. I think if we had not been so close it wouldn't have worked. In contrast, at the beginning of this summer my wife and I brought the subject of a swing up to a couple that we felt had been sending us very obvious signals (the husband offered me his wife for the night in a bet about what type of car James Bond drove, the wife flashed me, the husband told me the Mrs. was hot, a game of strip poker was initiated by them, there was a ceaseless drone from their side about their sexual exploits, etc...) and while I will spare y'all the details, it was probably the most awkward night of my life and they no longer seem to want to have anything to do with us. Evidently, the hyper-sexual nature of their discourse with us was due not towards any desire to be with us, but rather a downward spiral between the two of them in which they are constantly trying to make the other jealous... good times and great oldies... In summation, I would tend to agree with the other posters: swinging with your friends can work, but I think those incidents are in the minority. In general you will probably lose more friends that way then its worth.