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Originally Posted by SuAndBud We haven't seen each other for around 6 months and in that time he's become attached to a particular lady and she to him. They are skirting the issue of swinging but he feels it's too early to suggest a full meeting either with ourselves or others.
He wants to keep the status quo and spend sexy time with us (apart from her if necessary) and we'd like to do the same.
BUT would this be tantamount to a betrayal on his/our part towards her and how can we spend time with them both knowing that he is having sex with Su behind her back?
We don't want to lose what we've had for the past three years, but we don't want to deceive this lady either. |
Okay, I have to be honest. Now, if this is a F*** buddy, and they aren't exclusive, and she knows he sees other women, thats one thing. BUT if she is his girlfriend, and believes him to be monogomous to her, ya'll would be betraying her imo. Now, coming from the perspective of a wife this is a real sore point with me, because its about respect. If you want to have sex with my husband let me know! Hell, I may watch lol. But DON'T sneak behind my back trying to do it, because when I find out I'll kick your ass lol. I cussed a woman out (a single female swinger, btw) not a month ago for doing this. Had she shown me respect and just asked me it would have been different. But when Jay sent me that email where she said she wanted to sneak behind my back....well, pissed wasn't the word. It wasn't about the sex, it was about her trying to deceive me and disrespect me that really ticked me off. So, if she is his girlfriend she should at least be aware, imo.