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Originally Posted by KenRachel I have a situation that I'm trying to figure out.
We've got a neighborhood woman that we're pretty good friends with. She's got a son who is almost 18. Here's the dilemma.
Ken has been a bit of an older brother/father figure to him for awhile. We hire him to help Ken out with remodelling stuff on the house, and stuff like that.
Well, over Labor Day it became somewhat clear that he finds me attractive.
Part of me has been thinking that he's a nice guy, and young guy cute. After he turns 18, he might be fun to play with.
Another part of me is going, do i really want a guy that much younger? He's had girlfriends, but he might still be a virgin (that's been a long time since I was with a virgin).
And yet another part of me is going "DANGER!! DANGER!!". Would he be able to see it as just a fun time? Would he brag about it to his friends? He's pretty reliable and level-headed, but he is a teenaged boy.
Any thoughts?
Rachel |
Didn't I see this on Desperate Housewives or something?
My advice would be to just use the fantasy to heat up the sheets between you and hubby. Otherwise, leave it be. As SuAndBud said, he's young, and he's going to brag to his buddies. His Mom will get wind of it, and THEN you've got a problem.
And just because he finds you attractive doesn't make it a problem. You don't have to actually DO anything about that. It's no secret that men hit the hornball stage in their early 20's, and this young fellow is, I'm sure, no exception. Of course he finds you attractive! Lots of younger guys have "mature woman" fantasies. I work at a university and am surrounded by young hotties (male AND female) all day. Don't think for a second that I haven't noticed some chemistry there! The thing is, I've been burned once by the "Don't shit where you eat" rule...which makes it much easier to follow now.
Very mild, playful flirting is...okay. But I have to be VERY careful that I don't cross a very fine line between friendliness and unprofessionalism. It just means steering conversations back onto more appropriate topics, not doing stupid things like offering them a ride somewhere if we happen to both be going the same way, and being careful that I dress "office sexy" but not so much so that it embarrasses the department. I like to think I put just enough
je ne sais quoi out there to make them wonder what I'm like behind closed doors. And that's where it ends.
