[richdon03]

Seek out what you want in this lifestyle and don't judge others. Everyone begins this lifestyle for their own reasons. We were recently contacted by a woman who describes herself as an XBBW. We havent met her, but really enjoy the e-mail interaction. She said that she had always hidden because of her large size. Recently, however, she has begun to experience a personal awakening. She has begun to appreciate her body as it is. One of the reasons that she can do so is because she has found that among swingers there are quite a few people who find her as beautiful as she feels she really is. For her this lifestyle has been one of the most liberating experiences of her life. One of the things that imresses me the most is that average people-- my neighbors, the plumber, what have you-- are comfortable enough in their own skin to share their skin with anyone they want. I'm sure many (us included) never planned on letting anyone other than our spouses see our imperfect bodies, so, when we got involved in this we entered as we were.

It's foolish to judge other people. Just let them live their lives. If you don't like the crowds at the places you frequent, look for those exclusive clubs that only cater to "beautiful people." Just don't get you feelings hurt if they judge you not quite beautiful enough like you're judging other people.