It's not a dream, it's possible, but if you believe all the hype from the internet and "swingers videos" you're going to be sadly disappointed. Swingers are not all pornstars... in fact very few of us are!
We're normal people of all ages, colors, sizes, and belief systems.
You are right about swingers, they tend to pay more attention to their minds, body, and soul, but that is because we like to look as good as we can for who we are; the education level seems to be a bit higher among swingers then the general societal surveys show for the general public, and we are maybe a little more introspective and open-minded them some. Overall I've met more people I get along with in the lifestyle then outside. I love folks!
Okay, back on subject. LOL You will find 10's in the lifestyle, but keep your options open and your strike-zone wide, you'll also come across allot of folks that maybe at first you thought were alright, but after you get to know them you just HAVE to have sex with them.
Welcome to the Board and have a great time with your journey.
Mr. WS