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SuAndBud · 09-09-2006, 01:20 PM

Thanks for all the advice.

Although this post is still quite new, it's already becoming clear to us what to do (we think).

In the interests of not breaking her trust, we've decided to book a hotel and put our MFM with J on hold (for now or forever as may be). J will probably get the idea, although his and Bud's friendship is strong enough for Bud to be able to be totally honest with him and tell him our reasons, fully.

They are seeing each other exclusively and we have not played together since, so better to keep it that way, we reckon. That way when he tells her that we're swingers and if she asks him if he's been involved he can say yes, but not since he's been with her (which she will know, anyway as we have not travelled to see him nor him to see us since they started dating). What he or she did before they met each other is of no more consequence than within a vanilla relationship, especially as she doesn't recoil in horror when they're discussing the lifestyle.

If she is really lifestyle material, that should get her motor running - lol.

Thanks again, folks.

09-09-2006, 01:20 PM	#10 (permalink)
SuAndBud Has Left the Building Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 293 Location: UK Status: Couple	Re: When 2 + 2 = 3. Thanks for all the advice. Although this post is still quite new, it's already becoming clear to us what to do (we think). In the interests of not breaking her trust, we've decided to book a hotel and put our MFM with J on hold (for now or forever as may be). J will probably get the idea, although his and Bud's friendship is strong enough for Bud to be able to be totally honest with him and tell him our reasons, fully. They are seeing each other exclusively and we have not played together since, so better to keep it that way, we reckon. That way when he tells her that we're swingers and if she asks him if he's been involved he can say yes, but not since he's been with her (which she will know, anyway as we have not travelled to see him nor him to see us since they started dating). What he or she did before they met each other is of no more consequence than within a vanilla relationship, especially as she doesn't recoil in horror when they're discussing the lifestyle. If she is really lifestyle material, that should get her motor running - lol. Thanks again, folks.