As a couple who does enjoy the company of a single man, I can tell you what we look for in one.
We have a lot of single men contact us though ads, we have only met one of these after about a 6 month correspondence period. He actually contacted my husband first and they chatted for a few weeks before I got in on the game of chatting with him.
The others that we have met through ads or via messenger, we have eventually met in person at local socials that allow single men in.
No matter if it is a single or a couple, we ALWAYS meet in a public place first. We usually do not get a home phone number as we don't give ours out, but if they have a cell, we will ask for it, if we are planning to play, it helps in case any last minute things come up.
Regardless if it is a couple of a single, we always like to wait and get to know the person before we play. Although, we have been known to really hit it off with a person/couple and play on the first meet ( this is very, very rare).
Although it is not a necessity, it definitely helps to have a recommendation from another couple.
As far as choosing solely on looks, I have to be attracted to the man. Looks are great, but a personality will go a lot further. Hubby always has the final word on whether we play with a single man or not. Just because I might want him, it doesn't mean that hubby would enjoy seeing me with him or feel comfortable with him in a MFM threesome situation.
We basically look for a "normal" man, lol...he must show respect to us as a couple, and he must understand that we are a package deal, he will not get with me alone EVER! Hubby is always present. He has to understand that this is "our" fantasy, not just mine or my husband's, but both of ours and if he is willing to help us make it a reality, then we are willing to make sure that he also has a good time.
It really is not that hard to pick out the good ones from the bad ones. It usually only takes about one conversation with a single man to know whether or not he is a yes, or a no. If he can make it though a whole conversation without asking " So, when can we meet and get together?", he probably has a good chance. A rude, pushy man will not get very far at all.
If a single man will remember what his mother taught him ( or should have taught him) about the way to treat a lady, and be a gentleman, then he will go far in the lifestyle.
Teresa
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