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SuAndBud · 09-09-2006, 11:20 AM

We've swung MFM with a guy (old friend of the family) for around 3 years.

We (Su and Bud) know that he's had the occasional "regular" fling with different girls occasionally during this time and he always gets checked out medically before we meet up again.

We haven't seen each other for around 6 months and in that time he's become attached to a particular lady and she to him. They are skirting the issue of swinging but he feels it's too early to suggest a full meeting either with ourselves or others.

We're due to visit him soon (they have separate apartments) and we usually stay with him with the inevitable menage a trois occurrences.

He wants to keep the status quo and spend sexy time with us (apart from her if necessary) and we'd like to do the same. BUT would this be tantamount to a betrayal on his/our part towards her and how can we spend time with them both knowing that he is having sex with Su behind her back?

We're considering booking a hotel (rather than staying with him) and meeting up with them socially only. If things go well, maybe they will BOTH pop back with us, or us with them, for a night-cap.

We don't want to lose what we've had for the past three years, but we don't want to deceive this lady either.

Also, if and when we do broach the subject of swinging together (assuming she is ready, willing and keen), should she know that we've already engaged in MFM with her boyfriend?

09-09-2006, 11:20 AM	#1 (permalink)
SuAndBud Has Left the Building Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 293 Location: UK Status: Couple	Our SM FWB now has a girlfriend - How do we handle this change? We've swung MFM with a guy (old friend of the family) for around 3 years. We (Su and Bud) know that he's had the occasional "regular" fling with different girls occasionally during this time and he always gets checked out medically before we meet up again. We haven't seen each other for around 6 months and in that time he's become attached to a particular lady and she to him. They are skirting the issue of swinging but he feels it's too early to suggest a full meeting either with ourselves or others. We're due to visit him soon (they have separate apartments) and we usually stay with him with the inevitable menage a trois occurrences. He wants to keep the status quo and spend sexy time with us (apart from her if necessary) and we'd like to do the same. BUT would this be tantamount to a betrayal on his/our part towards her and how can we spend time with them both knowing that he is having sex with Su behind her back? We're considering booking a hotel (rather than staying with him) and meeting up with them socially only. If things go well, maybe they will BOTH pop back with us, or us with them, for a night-cap. We don't want to lose what we've had for the past three years, but we don't want to deceive this lady either. Also, if and when we do broach the subject of swinging together (assuming she is ready, willing and keen), should she know that we've already engaged in MFM with her boyfriend?