hi everybody,
first thank you for making this a place we "all" feel welcome
I am Carla, hubby is Tony, and yes we are poly. We are very new still as some may say....in the dating stages...
But, recently we met a wonderful man, a writer and editor for a newspaper at that, so sweet.....well we told everything upfront before we even met, spoke for 3 days, then finally we meet, we all click. He stayed a few diferant nights with us and was as giddy happy as we was. he to is legally married on paper for the last several years due to issues of the wife not wanting the courts to screw him. so they are more like bro and sis, as he put it. his wife had a boyfriend of her own that he also gets along with. only problem, the boyfriend of his wife moved to vegas. so now she comutes back and forth to vegas sometimes with their daughter sometimes he gets her.
What was so amazing to me is that at least with this man, i actually felt that special warmth, connection that i also feel with Tony, blew my mind....and as he stated he was overwhelmed. he suddenly realized that to be close to his sweet child, vegas has to be a choice he will have to make. so he has left our "dream" for now, and we can only be understanding as to why.
My heart actually aches for his presence, his voice, and everything just as it does whith my sweet husband. but the memories however short are some of the best i have and shall never forget, playing in bed for 30 minutes with our 5 yr old just tickling her and laughing, so much fun.
So yes we got started and only for it to have to end so soon, but if that wondeful feeling of all that much more love and extended family is possible, our search continues.....as i cry.
We are also looking for a special lady and may have one now, still in the comunication process, but as the saying goes, its better to have loved and lost than to have never loved.
My husband and I are soul mates and so in love, we have our ups and downs like every other couple alive, but this is something we both look so forward to having and sharing with our children.
much love
xoxo TnC