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Originally Posted by JTcamp05 Shelly,
You can be "pissed off" sure! But your an adult...you just need to be "pissed off" at the right person. Out at a party is no time to define rules that should be done in advance....and this problem is not gonna be fixed in the heat of things it is for sure a "morning after" talk when everyone has a clear picture! |
There are many decaffienated brands that are just as full-flavored as the regular stuff.
I've been through this twice, both times with "dates", and not while committed to anyone. The first one had gotten the wrong idea. We didn't do much together while at the club. Walked around, met a few people. She would give me head and I'd play a bit with her, she was a friend of a friend. One week she went off for a bit with a sadist she'd met (right up her alley), didn't bother me. Next week, I went off with the date of the sadist, plus him, plus another couple. I was invited, she wasn't. When I came out, she had left me there. But had arranged for a friend to bring me back to where I was staying.
Second time, different date and club. We had sat in a room, playing a bit, when another woman came up and asked if they could join. We agreed, I went to get our drinks. When I came back, the club security guard had gone in with the other three, closed and locked the door (my date was the best looking woman in the place, by far). I was annoyed, but found a group to hang with and had some fun.
Now is different. To me, a committment requires mutual respect. At the very least, I would want She to tell me where she was going. Since we never play alone at a club, or seperate it would be a deliberate insult to just go off with someone else without telling me.
Do you have anything that you treasure JTCamp? What if you came home and found your wife had sold it, or painted it pink, or thrown it in the dumpster? You would be okay with that, because it was just a case of you trying to enforce on someone else your rules.
One of the things many of us treasure in our relationships is the communication. I know if She threw our communication away (or if I did the same) or relationship would at the very least be seriously strained.