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Originally Posted by Petercockright I've been on both sides of this question as a couple and as a single. And quite frankly my dears I don't give a damn if the person male or female is married or not. I don't ask and I don't care how they decide to run their life. I just want them to focus on me or us. I don't care if their home life is wonderful or if it stinks... their life is theirs to manage.
I've been in this lifestyle for 20+ yrs, started and managed swing clubs, swinger groups and this topic is always being brought up. The morality police are always trying to push the idea that solos are always cheaters. Cheating is a 3 rd grade notion denoting someone else has ownership of anothers body. Why should anyone think they are charged with the responsiblity of judging how others choose to live their life. |
Your "experience" isn't important when stating your position. It sometimes can show you might have relevant knowledge (say a mechanic recommending a Toyota), but with no means to verify, it's easy to make up. I've met too many people who've worked a relatively simple job for 20 + years and still are incompetent. I've also met those with almost no experience who are exceptionally skilled. Twenty + years and you're a solo male involved in something that can only truly be a lifestyle for a committed couple? I say this because solo, you're just expanding your playing field for sex, as a couple you are putting much more on the line. If you started and managed swing clubs, what happened to them? You should be telling us about these fantastic clubs so those in the area can experience them first hand. Call me a cynic (probably not your first choice), but all your quoted experience hints at failure rather than success, at least in this "lifestyle".
To be fair you might be the Eric Clapton of swinging, an artist that defines the art. Just read the forums and you'll find many couples seeking encounters with single men or women. And you'll find the same couples making the distinction between single and cheating. Cheating has nothing to do with ownership. It has to do with respecting a committment. I've heard a few different marriage vows but have yet to hear "Love, honor and let you have sex with whomever, wherever and whenever because it's none of my damned business". If the partner knows and agrees, more power to both, but if the partner is kept in the dark, it's not much of a partnership.
The 3rd grade concept is "Morality Police", especially here. The people here offer advice and relevant experience. They express opinions and give suggestions. You'll rarely see this group totally condemn someone for their actions or beliefs. Sure, a few (mainly me) will say "Bad Dog" and rub someone's nose in their mess when we feel they've made and/or are compounding a serious error. Seldom is it about morality. It's the parent telling the child how not to get burned. If they get burned there are those here to treat it and help them learn from that mistake. If they don't get burned, they'll get kudos for their success against long odds.
And of course they'll get 800+ words of complete garbage from yours truly.
