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Dooode · 08-28-2006, 10:01 PM

Thanks for your replies, folks! I've always found the responses and individual histories interesting!

Is your current bisexual status based on a decision to change your orientation, or have you been bisexual your whole life?
For me, it was ultimately a decision.

If it was a decision, what were your influences? (ie. magazines, spousal encouragement, acting on curiosities, etc.)
When I was a child, I was a natural hetero; looking at dad's Playboys or other T&A mags of the 60's .. I was always fascinated. It wasn't until I was in late puberty that I grew curious about another cock: Does it look like mine? Do guys masturbate the same way I do? Although I never lost my love (and lust!) for females, but I did admire the male form as well.

In 1979, when faced with the decision of whether I was gay or straight, I decided I was straight .. and put all the curiosities on the back burner and went on to live a hetero life: marriage, work, step-kids, etc.. In those years, I didn't know there was such a thing as bisexuality for men. It was gay or straight and I knew I wasn't gay ... so straight it is!

When I reached 37, I stumbled across bisexuality as a concept for men. I honestly don't know where the idea came from. I always knew that it could be so for women -- as anyone who's ever picked up a Penthouse can testify. But it never dawned on me that it could ever be that way for guys too. So I looked at the idea, and the curiosities resurfaced.

After the failure of my marriage, I decided to satisfy these curiosities (no, the failure of the marriage wasn't because of the curiosities!) and ultimately ended up in the swinging lifestyle.

How have you found your current status beneficial to your personal growth?
I think I've come to understand women a lot better, particularly in dealing with men and male attitudes. I think I've become more sensitive to who they are as people and as a sex.

08-28-2006, 10:01 PM	#5 (permalink)
Dooode Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 281 Location: Florida Status: Single Male	Re: Bisexuality: Nurture or Nature? Thanks for your replies, folks! I've always found the responses and individual histories interesting! Is your current bisexual status based on a decision to change your orientation, or have you been bisexual your whole life? For me, it was ultimately a decision. If it was a decision, what were your influences? (ie. magazines, spousal encouragement, acting on curiosities, etc.) When I was a child, I was a natural hetero; looking at dad's Playboys or other T&A mags of the 60's .. I was always fascinated. It wasn't until I was in late puberty that I grew curious about another cock: Does it look like mine? Do guys masturbate the same way I do? Although I never lost my love (and lust!) for females, but I did admire the male form as well. In 1979, when faced with the decision of whether I was gay or straight, I decided I was straight .. and put all the curiosities on the back burner and went on to live a hetero life: marriage, work, step-kids, etc.. In those years, I didn't know there was such a thing as bisexuality for men. It was gay or straight and I knew I wasn't gay ... so straight it is! When I reached 37, I stumbled across bisexuality as a concept for men. I honestly don't know where the idea came from. I always knew that it could be so for women -- as anyone who's ever picked up a Penthouse can testify. But it never dawned on me that it could ever be that way for guys too. So I looked at the idea, and the curiosities resurfaced. After the failure of my marriage, I decided to satisfy these curiosities (no, the failure of the marriage wasn't because of the curiosities!) and ultimately ended up in the swinging lifestyle. How have you found your current status beneficial to your personal growth? I think I've come to understand women a lot better, particularly in dealing with men and male attitudes. I think I've become more sensitive to who they are as people and as a sex.