The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Do you play with Married Males without their partners?

Couple_N_Ark · 08-28-2006, 07:50 PM

There was a similar discussion in May of 2004 in which we commented. I went back and cut and pasted my comment, since it still applies.

We were somewhat raked over the coals then for our views. I guess we'll see if the consensus has changed any.

Here is our exact reply..........

We enjoy meeting single men, and do so more often probably than meeting other couples.

Some may think this is extreme, but we do have one VERY HARD rule when meeting single men....and that is we must have their name, and home phone number. And be able to call them at various times to verify they are single. We let it be known up front that we will only meet single men, and that we will verify they are single, so it's not like we mislead anyone.

If someone tells us they're not listed in the phone book (it's probably their cell number), then we don't meet them. If for any reason we can't verify the information we don't meet them....it doesn't matter how handsome, buff or whatever the guy is. This also works as somewhat of a security measure also.

Unfortunately when going to an on premise club and "connecting" with a single male, you cannot always be so sure about them being truly single or not, but we do question them and try to get a feel about their honesty.

I know this is a bit off topic, but just to clarify something...we would also NOT MEET a married woman who is cheating on their spouse. If we never met another single lady again, we just would not do it if we knew they were married. Obviously we cannot use the same verification with a lady, but many times we do talk to ladies on the phone before meeting.

I was a single man for 12 yrs, and actually pretty successful at swinging as a single male. I think I had better luck with just the "general population" rather than with admitted swingers. There are alot of couples out there (on yahoo, AOL, MSN, etc) who have probably never heard of most swinger sites, and might never consider themselves to be swingers, but they still have that fantasy of having a 3some with another man.

08-28-2006, 07:50 PM	#24 (permalink)
Couple_N_Ark Here to Stay Join Date: Aug 2003 Posts: 74 Location: Central Arkansas Status: Married Couple	Re: Do you play with Married Males without their partners? There was a similar discussion in May of 2004 in which we commented. I went back and cut and pasted my comment, since it still applies. We were somewhat raked over the coals then for our views. I guess we'll see if the consensus has changed any. Here is our exact reply.......... We enjoy meeting single men, and do so more often probably than meeting other couples. Some may think this is extreme, but we do have one VERY HARD rule when meeting single men....and that is we must have their name, and home phone number. And be able to call them at various times to verify they are single. We let it be known up front that we will only meet single men, and that we will verify they are single, so it's not like we mislead anyone. If someone tells us they're not listed in the phone book (it's probably their cell number), then we don't meet them. If for any reason we can't verify the information we don't meet them....it doesn't matter how handsome, buff or whatever the guy is. This also works as somewhat of a security measure also. Unfortunately when going to an on premise club and "connecting" with a single male, you cannot always be so sure about them being truly single or not, but we do question them and try to get a feel about their honesty. I know this is a bit off topic, but just to clarify something...we would also NOT MEET a married woman who is cheating on their spouse. If we never met another single lady again, we just would not do it if we knew they were married. Obviously we cannot use the same verification with a lady, but many times we do talk to ladies on the phone before meeting. I was a single man for 12 yrs, and actually pretty successful at swinging as a single male. I think I had better luck with just the "general population" rather than with admitted swingers. There are alot of couples out there (on yahoo, AOL, MSN, etc) who have probably never heard of most swinger sites, and might never consider themselves to be swingers, but they still have that fantasy of having a 3some with another man.