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Originally Posted by LikeMinds321 I like you to elaborate on this rule, if you can. |
It is really pretty simple - when Mrs Spoo and I take a shower together, there is always some level of play; usually light since there just isn't much appeal for us to have sex in the shower.
So - Mrs Spoo taking a shower with a playmate would mean - for us anyway - play. And since we always play together, and have a very small shower, we don't shower with our playmates.
You asked in another response what was the "threat". Honestly, I think that is very much the wrong term. I am not really threatened by her playing alone - I just don't enjoy it. Same with her. It would make us uncomfortable - but more importantly it just doesn't appeal to us.
I am not threatened that Mrs Spoo will "fall" for a playmate. I am very confident in our relationship. Despite a perception (posted a few times around here) that same room only couples are somewhat less evolved, mature or ready to move beyond "swinging 101" - swinging for us is about "us". Because of that we do what will make the experience exciting for "us". Why do anything any different? Why play in more "advanced" ways if it doesn't enhance your enjoyment of the sexual adventure?
As I have said before - I think "mature" swinging isn't being able to do certain things (like playing seperately). "Mature" swinging is the ability to know what you enjoy - what you are comfortable with; being able to communicate that effectively with your spouse; and then doing just that. "Mature" swingers make swinging work for them
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