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sereneiders · 08-28-2006, 03:44 AM

SuAndBud,

Welcome to the board!

I agree with intuition here. Moreover, you said you understand where this guy came from when talking about the flashbacks, and I wonder if this doesn't correlate to picking your best friend as a swinger partner.

As intuition said, consider yourself REALLY lucky, and this post isn't for you two, but more for other readers that may be thinking of swinging with some friend, since it worth to point out you two are the exception.

Before engaging in swinging, no one knows for sure what may happen, even more, you hardly would be able to figure out all the possible outcomes, the way you'd feel, how much it will differ from your fantasies, and where it differs, wheter it will be something sweet or bitter. The advice of avoiding to swing with friends comes, in most part, from this fact: if the experience turns to be a bad one, from then and one your friend would become a hurtfull reminder for you two, and it's likely that you end up losing the friendship. But if you did it with previously unknown people, you can affrod not to meet them anymore.

I don't know what do you understand by "flashbacks" (or if am understanding the same here), but I believe the more people involved in those memories actually have a relationship with you, the more likely those flashbacks would affect you.

In any case, your experience seems to be far from the OP one (IF the OP ever had a swinging experience at all).

08-28-2006, 03:44 AM	#36 (permalink)
sereneiders Some sort of user Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 1,131 Location: Argentina Status: Couple	Re: IF MARRIED~DON'T SWING...IT CAN BE HORRIBLE & RUIN YOUR MARRIAGE SuAndBud, Welcome to the board! I agree with intuition here. Moreover, you said you understand where this guy came from when talking about the flashbacks, and I wonder if this doesn't correlate to picking your best friend as a swinger partner. As intuition said, consider yourself REALLY lucky, and this post isn't for you two, but more for other readers that may be thinking of swinging with some friend, since it worth to point out you two are the exception. Before engaging in swinging, no one knows for sure what may happen, even more, you hardly would be able to figure out all the possible outcomes, the way you'd feel, how much it will differ from your fantasies, and where it differs, wheter it will be something sweet or bitter. The advice of avoiding to swing with friends comes, in most part, from this fact: if the experience turns to be a bad one, from then and one your friend would become a hurtfull reminder for you two, and it's likely that you end up losing the friendship. But if you did it with previously unknown people, you can affrod not to meet them anymore. I don't know what do you understand by "flashbacks" (or if am understanding the same here), but I believe the more people involved in those memories actually have a relationship with you, the more likely those flashbacks would affect you. In any case, your experience seems to be far from the OP one (IF the OP ever had a swinging experience at all).