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Originally Posted by SuAndBud Call me soft or a sap or whatever, but I get turned on to see her with another guy and she seems to enjoy the attention. I'd love her to want to see me do likewise with another girl, but until that is cool with her (and it has to come from her), I'm in control and "faithfull" to her. |
I don't think anyone here will call you soft or a sap for being turned on watching your wife with another guy, and more importantly wanting her to enjoy herself.
I think too often we get so far into this and forget what those early days felt like. How scary it may have been or those small pangs of jealousy or questions we may have had. It's too easy to become jaded as we are involved in this lifestyle for longer periods of time. It's important for each of us to look back and try to remember how we felt the first time.
Yes, swinging can be a horrible decision and it CAN ruin your marriage... if it's the wrong decision for you. But we each have to make our own decisions and it's up to each of us to do the research first and think about decisions long enough to hopefully make the RIGHT decision, so that we don't ruin anything.
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