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Originally Posted by Dooode Here are a few questions for any folks out there who are bisexual:
Is your current bisexual status based on a decision to change your orientation, or have you been bisexual your whole life? |
I think that I've always been attracted to women. When I was a teenager, I looked at porn magazines, and was stimulated by seeing the women far more than the men. But, I found boys (men, later on) attractive in real life, so I didn't really think I was anything other than straight.
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If it was a decision, what were your influences? (ie. magazines, spousal encouragement, acting on curiosities, etc.)
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Well, even though I don't consider it to have been a concious decision to be bi, what led me to explore the issue was a particularly erotic lap dance that I got from another woman at a strip club. Just her nearness, her touch, the way she looked and felt was so exciting that I was pretty dang sure that I wasn't completely straight by the time we left the club.
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If you've been bisexual your whole life, were there influences that made you think that you were other than bisexual? (ie. getting married and having a family, more same-sex relationships than norm, etc.)
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Because being anything other than straight is not widely accepted, and my attraction to women wasn't strong enough to make me identify as gay, I didn't really know there was something in between.
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How have you found your current status beneficial to your personal growth?
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Having bi-sexual experiences have helped me to learn more about my anatomy and helped to de-stigmatize some sexual acts for me. I had a hangup about having oral sex performed on me (a leftover from social stigma--that women smell like fish, that "down there" is unclean, etc). After I performed oral on another woman, I relaxed a lot, because I realized that it was pleasurable to give. It was only then that I could relax enough to have orgasms from oral. So, that's been EXTREMELY beneficial to my personal growth
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Pepper