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Originally Posted by cracker60479 If attraction to someone is what makes sex okay for swingers and love for their spouse necessary for their marriage, what is the difference here? |
I, too, feel for you and wish the very best for your wife...
And - in wishing the best for your wife - I will answer this bluntly and say that the line above is incredibly bone-headed. You know the difference or you wouldn't ask the question.
You are looking for some slippery argument to make yourself feel better about stepping out on your ill wife - and risking doing something devastating to her, you, your marriage, your so-called "crush" and some "live in boyfriend" that you apparently don't know.
Life is filled with "what if". But let me ask you - would you rather live out the rest of your life wondering "what if" you hadn't slept with your high school crush? Or would you rather live with "what if" I had been faithful to my wife in the most desperate and painful time of her life? "What if" I had been the husband she needed me to be instead of leaving her alone while I tumbled about on a motel room bed? "What if" I stood beside her, been strong for her, made her smile - instead of spending all of my mental energy on something that didn't happen fifty years ago?
"What if" someone on a swinger's message board told you to get your head out of your ass and pay attention to what you have, think about what you can lose, and actually helped you make a choice that you'll be proud of when you look your wife in the eye?
Spoomonkey