Thread: Is cheating ever justified?
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Old 08-27-2006, 02:33 AM   #2 (permalink)
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I've got to ask, have you done a search on this board on "cheating"? The reason I ask this is because your story here is not unique and has been discussed here many times before. I don't know what you expect to hear, but I'll take a stab at some of your questions.

Is "cheating" ever justified?

Not in my opinion, if you Love your wife like you say you do, then I can't understand how cheating on her would even be a consideration. Let me ask you this, is it OK if your wife cheats on you?

If attraction to someone is what makes sex okay for swingers and love for their spouse necessary for their marriage, what is the difference here?

Well, the love I have for my wife and the promises I made to her when I married her included such things as trust, respect, and total honesty. These things are a big part of what love is to me, if I violated those things by cheating on her I would have no right to expect her love or respect in return, and I certainly couldn't expect her to believe that I love her.

Do I have to sacrifice something I have wanted almost all my life?

Yes, if you want to remain married to your wife you do.
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