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Originally Posted by Petercockright I've been on both sides of this question as a couple and as a single. And quite frankly my dears I don't give a damn if the person male or female is married or not. I don't ask and I don't care how they decide to run their life. I just want them to focus on me or us. I don't care if their home life is wonderful or if it stinks... their life is theirs to manage.
I've been in this lifestyle for 20+ yrs, started and managed swing clubs, swinger groups and this topic is always being brought up. The morality police are always trying to push the idea that solos are always cheaters. Cheating is a 3 rd grade notion denoting someone else has ownership of anothers body. Why should anyone think they are charged with the responsiblity of judging how others choose to live their life. |
This argument about the "morality police" has been used countless times on here, and likely elsewhere. And it never sells. It always seemed to me like some kind of attempt at vilifying the heeding of one's conscience. As if slapping some kind of derogatory label on my sense of right and wrong makes the moral negligence of others somehow accceptable. "If you can't be decent, bring others down to your level."
Peter, NO ONE said that solo players are all tarred with the same stick. Not all of them are cheaters, and if they aren't, then many of us have no problem playing with them. But because there ARE some who are disrespectful of their own spouses (which makes us doubt their ability to be honest and fair with complete strangers like us about silly little things like...oh...say STD's??), and because our time is valuable, we find that it's more time-efficient to simply avoid the headache and disappointment of trying to sort out the cheaters from the honest guys. It's nothing personal, it all comes down to time...which we have precious little of. And then again, we just don't like people who don't treat their spouses like adults; I'm not going to fuck someone I don't like as a person. If you choose to avoid feeling bad about enabling others to hurt their relationships by saying that cheating is a figment of our imagination (a silly 3rd grade notion), then I guess that's up to you. Do as you please, but don't expect others to just smile and say, "Gee, that's cool!"