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Originally Posted by captainbob ...When I first got married at 23, my wife and I were all about work, work, work. Hardly any sex. But We never would have stayed together if we had been swingers. When I married again at 35, it was all about children. No energy for sex and the thought of swinging never occurred to us then either. Then, at 45, I'm getting more sex than ever before and finally have somebody who is as horny as me. At 50, I'm wondering if she'll stay with me or get bored? She used to swing and I never did. What's it like?
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That's a good way to put it 'bob. Too many things that make demands on your resources earlier on in life. But that's like everything in life, right? Work hard, get the job done...then it's playtime!
To answer you question: Swinging is fun, but its very demanding. If your relationship has any cracks or flaws, you'll find out about them right quick. Success or failure in swinging depends on whether you're going to let those cracks/flaws blow wide open or if you're going to set about making them right.
If you have a satisfying sex life right now, then she will most certainly NOT get bored with you. Just like using sex toys doesn't make her want you less. In a way, your swing parnters are sorta like walking talking sex toys. And that's what you are to them. And everyone is okay with this. It doesn't mean you don't respect them; it just means that sex is sex, and love is love. Your swing partner doesn't need you to love her for her to be attracted to you. In fact, she really prefers it that way. (Try reading Getting Started and the FAQ section for more material on this sort of thing).