The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Do you play with Married Males without their partners?

Couples Touch · 08-23-2006, 07:06 PM

This is a great forum topic with that fact being that if you have been on any of the great membership personals websites for the lifestyle, at one time or another, you have received a message that reads something like....

"great looking, successful, well endowed, energetic, fun, single male here.... well, I play single... I am married, but the spouse does not participate in the lifestyle, but says it is OK for me to have fun"....

or my all time favorite that ends something like...

"... and the wife is on a 6 month job assignment in another state, and says I need to have my fun while she is away."

Personally, male or female, we feel like someone "swinging" behind the back of the other spouse/partner, to simply put it, cheating!

Recently, we had been communicating with a gorgeous "single" lady. For a couple of months, she had actually pursued us via email and chat, and we had spoke to her on the phone several times.

Finally, we worked out the details, and set an entire day aside, as we already knew the 3 of us would get along wonderfully, and chemistry would not be an issue. So, the day finally arrived.....

She showed up in all of her beauty, was very sexy, and even more yummy than the photos has shown. She and the wife hit it off very well, and I was "licking my chops" so to speak, with the anticipation of having both of these lovely creatures all to myself.

About 2 hours into our afternoon together, having share a lovely meal, drinks and stimulating conversation... the time to take things to the next level arrived...... so, off to bedroom we go!

Just before the "playing" got to a serious level, a slip happened on the part of this lovely lady, and the wife and I both just looked at each other. It had not escaped either of us.

She had slipped that she was Married! So we politely questioned her, and she actually was very open to discuss it with us, and to be honest, from what she said (if it were the actual case) we felt for her and the situation.

At that point, without even having to say a word to one another, my beautiful wife and I knew what we had to do, and we stopped "encounter" at that point. She was married, and we have strong beliefs in marriage, and we could not take it any further.

Afterwards, we both talked about how difficult it had been. This lady would have been lots of fun. Sex would have been outstanding, and maybe be more than a one time opportunity.

Not patting ourselves on the back. Said all of that to make the point that for us, the lifestyle is about fun, excitement, variety, and more! In our fun and enjoyment, we do not want to ever be in a place that we might feel responsible for a marriage or relationship ending because the person gets caught!

08-23-2006, 07:06 PM	#12 (permalink)
Couples Touch Active Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 10 Location: Houston Status: Couple	Re: Do you play with Married Males without their partners? This is a great forum topic with that fact being that if you have been on any of the great membership personals websites for the lifestyle, at one time or another, you have received a message that reads something like.... "great looking, successful, well endowed, energetic, fun, single male here.... well, I play single... I am married, but the spouse does not participate in the lifestyle, but says it is OK for me to have fun".... or my all time favorite that ends something like... "... and the wife is on a 6 month job assignment in another state, and says I need to have my fun while she is away." Personally, male or female, we feel like someone "swinging" behind the back of the other spouse/partner, to simply put it, cheating! Recently, we had been communicating with a gorgeous "single" lady. For a couple of months, she had actually pursued us via email and chat, and we had spoke to her on the phone several times. Finally, we worked out the details, and set an entire day aside, as we already knew the 3 of us would get along wonderfully, and chemistry would not be an issue. So, the day finally arrived..... She showed up in all of her beauty, was very sexy, and even more yummy than the photos has shown. She and the wife hit it off very well, and I was "licking my chops" so to speak, with the anticipation of having both of these lovely creatures all to myself. About 2 hours into our afternoon together, having share a lovely meal, drinks and stimulating conversation... the time to take things to the next level arrived...... so, off to bedroom we go! Just before the "playing" got to a serious level, a slip happened on the part of this lovely lady, and the wife and I both just looked at each other. It had not escaped either of us. She had slipped that she was Married! So we politely questioned her, and she actually was very open to discuss it with us, and to be honest, from what she said (if it were the actual case) we felt for her and the situation. At that point, without even having to say a word to one another, my beautiful wife and I knew what we had to do, and we stopped "encounter" at that point. She was married, and we have strong beliefs in marriage, and we could not take it any further. Afterwards, we both talked about how difficult it had been. This lady would have been lots of fun. Sex would have been outstanding, and maybe be more than a one time opportunity. Not patting ourselves on the back. Said all of that to make the point that for us, the lifestyle is about fun, excitement, variety, and more! In our fun and enjoyment, we do not want to ever be in a place that we might feel responsible for a marriage or relationship ending because the person gets caught!