Thanks for all your replies, I think I am going to post my size preference on Swing Lifestyle. And actually Julie I think you may be right about my husband. I am not sure what is big for the general population, but he is about 7.5 inches and about that same size in girth. All I know is he completely fills me out and beginning sex with him anytime is somewhat of a chore in the beginning because it takes a while to ease it in. I guess that is what I am used to. But i think I may have also experienced smaller than average men in the swinging department. One was maybe 3.5-4 inches. My pelvic floor muscles are strong, I try to tighten them when I am with a smaller man. Sometimes it helps sometimes it doesn't. I will just learn to be a bit more vocal now and advertise my desires a bit more. Thanks everyone
Mrs