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Originally Posted by Spika I don't want to risk sounding really shallow, but the idea of swinging with people my parents age doesn't exactly do it for me (mind you, I'm saying this as a broadsweeping generalization).
Is this unusual for a young-ish (i'm 22) person interested in swinging to be feeling? |
Ah think nothing of it!
There are just as many couples out there who prefer not to swing with people young enough to be their kids. I think they just have very little in common. Generally speaking.
No, I don't think it's unusual to be interested in swinging in the under-25 set. Although I've said before in another thread, "learning" to swing is often very challenging, made even more so without the advantage of having a couple extra decades of life experience under one's belt. I still haven't figured out a way to say this without coming off as condescending (and I absolutely do NOT mean to!), but there's no denying that it's human nature to think we know our shit. We figure we're pretty smart, pretty mature, pretty enlightened...compared to our younger selves that is. Which is all we have to compare to. I'm 31. I look back on my early 20's and say, "WTF was I
thinking??" I look back on my teen years and I get scared. My brains were nothing but hormonal mush, and I made extremely STOOOOPID decisions. Scared, because I have an 11-going-on-18 year old.
Anyway, I'm sure that 10 or 20 years from now, my perspective will have broadened that much more, and I'll look back at 31 and realize where I went wrong. I think in their 20's, people are hopeful and energetic, and enthusiastic about where they want their lives to head. In their 30's - 50's, people have had the opportunity to learn from life (they've been hurt, they've been dumped, they've seen the difference between infatuation and real love, they've had kids, they've lost loved ones, they've gone through relationships of all kinds, they've figured out their sexualities, etc.) and at this time, they're really coming into their own. This is why, after they've got the rest of life's bullshit figured out (for the most part anyway), they are looking for the next challenge.
I just think it's a lot to put on one's plate any earlier than 25...at least generally speaking. I've seen some 22 year olds whose level of maturity far exceeded that of someone
twice their age. There are no hard and fast rules in this respect. Just observed tendencies. Wishing you and your partner luck, and Welcome to the board!