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These are your rules and only you can decide what you are and are not comfortable with. I can't see why anyone should get upset about your rules, if they don't like them then they don't have to play with you. The only thing I would stress is that you make sure all potential playmates know your rules way ahead of time. we recently had a couple that wanted to hook up with us and we thought we clicked pretty well with them and it wasn't until we got to the play room that we found out that it was fine for me to have sex with the woman but Mrs. GT was only allowed to soft swap with the male of the couple. We were pissed to put it lightly and left like our asses were on fire. As long as everybody is aware of your rules up front though, I don't see how it would be a problem.

As far as the people with the opinion that your preferences exhibiting a level of unfairness, I would agree, and we would not play with you based on that. For us it is everybody plays or no one plays. That doesn't mean that their wouldn't be others that wouldn't be totally cool with it though (a good example would be the couple we walked out on, as they are the opposite of you so you all might mesh just fine), or you could stick with just single females as you have stated, if you can find any that would be cool with what you are looking for. So, I wouldn't worry about what these other people think, nor would I limit it to just single females. Their are all kinds of swingers and I would be surprised if you couldn't find people to play with within your boundries.