This will have to be somewhat of a quickie...
My husband and I have been swinging for a year now, and have had several experiences both with couples, and alone with singles. While my experiences have ranged from mediocre to horrid, his have been mediocre to excellent. I guess what I'm trying to say is I have been disappointed by the sizes of penis' I have encountered. I start getting intimate with the male half of the couple (or the single male) and I am excited; for the most part they were all attractive. Then I reach down to feel their penis, and am SO disappointed by its size I am almost immediately turned off. For the sake of the experience I try to get back into the mood, but for me anyway, a small penis just does not do it. I feel as if trying to swing with a man now is like russian roulette, because I won't know the size of their erect penis until it is too late...
And by the time I feel their penis, I feel like it would be the most supreme insult to say "nevermind...stop". I also feel a little guilty asking about the man's penis size before we even get intimate because I have had my fair share of men with erectile dysfunction from nerves, I can't imagine how much more magnified it would be if I said "by the way, is your dick big enough?" I am to the point of changing our profiles on the net to 'looking only for females for FFM' since I just don't know if I care to put forth the effort of looking for a man with a decent penis. Any other women have similar experiences/complaints?