 Re: Friends Debate Revisited
We're not a "friends first" couple necessarily, but all of our closest friends are swingers. There are plenty of times that we go out with swinger friends and have a vanilla night out. We've made friends in other parts of the country and have gone for visits. We've met other couple's families at get-togethers. In our experience, THE SEX is not always hanging over our heads. Once the newness of 'wow, we're swinging' wears off, we've found that it's nice to be able to hang out with other people who you don't have to censor yourself around. Quite frankly, it's pretty uncomfortable to hang out with vanilla people in a social setting because there's so many times that I've wanted to tell a story, or say something, and then realize...uh oh, better not say THAT.
When we originally started, I was more like your husband. I didn't really want to get to know any swingers....or so I thought. But really, it's like any other hobby where you meet people...some of them you'll have more in common with, and some you won't.
Pepper
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